COPYING
When one operates from a state of “awareness” one tends to note how much others “unconsciously” copy without realizing “copying” denotes to others one does not have their own identity.
According to the dictionary, the word “shame” pronounced “shem” in SiSwati, means disgrace, embarrassment, dishonor, indignity, humiliation, etc., and yet so many people “unconsciously” use this phrase in one’s presence referring to the very person they are addressing. It appears to be a “fashion” for people to loosely use the phrase which resulted in one of my Facebook friends posting as his status update “If one more person says shame, I will scream!” Those were my sentiments exactly! Why did I think I was the only one who found the term offensive?
Further, the youth has taken to “copying” American artists who walk around with their pants half down their backsides not realizing that the habit originated in the prisons where prisoners who had no sexual partners were showing others that their backsides were available!
Often I receive telephone calls from various offices, or I telephone a “service” for assistance and the operator is so focused on the twanging or rolling of the tongue that one cannot understand what is being said. I then wonder, whatever happened to be unique and original? To me personally, there is nothing more attractive than one who embraces themselves without looking and sounding “artificial.”
Why can so many not celebrate their uniqueness? Why do people think who they are is not attractive, or is not enough? Why do so many “believe” they have to behave and copy others instead of realizing they not only have one life to live and in so doing leaving a trail instead of following a path? Electing to recreate oneself as original is what sets one apart from the sleeping masses.
No one can be you. You are the only person with that DNA, with those fingerprints, and with that energy. Use it to mark your presence. Your energy is unique. When you start to embrace all that is you, the world will also embrace you as you are. You watch soapies where the so-called “rich ladies” of the town drive their vehicles around with “angry” looks, swearing like troopers, and you believe that that is how one should look and behave whilst behind the wheel of a car. I find it so much more attractive when people smile from the soul, wave enthusiastically, and never utilize vulgar language, let others in instead of looking stern with all their “problems” on their faces. It is not that the rest of us do not have problems, it is simply that we elect not to “carry them” around with us wherever we go. I have found that when I “release” my troubles and stop thinking about them, when I return to thinking about them, I find a solution.
I have also learned not to “pick up” the energy of miserable and unhappy-looking people. One has to remain mindful at all times. Although this may sound “obvious” you will be surprised how often you do pick up those energies. It is only when you do introspection and enquire on why you are suddenly angry and irritable, despite nothing bad having happened to you, that you recognize that you picked up the negativity of others. Stop being a refuse removal truck that collects everybody’s garbage.
It has also become common, I note, to openly show your disapproval of something. If you consciously watch the youth you can “tell” what sort of a mother/teacher that youth has. Watch how when you greet a scholar his/her first reaction is to make an angry face and then openly look at you up and down! Wow! Unmistakably energy of “irritation” and “disapproval”. It also says “Who are you to dare address me!” As long as we adults are in denial about the attitudes and habits we have “copied” from those we socialize with, our youth will openly walk around leaving that negativity in every space they occupy. Catch yourself the next time you are about to “operate on autopilot” and change the energy you emit. Change too, the expression on your face as you drive or walk around. You know the expression you walk about with which expression results in others ignoring you or even “avoiding” being in your presence. If you are being deliberately ignored then it is time to work on yourself. Don’t be ashamed, we are all a work in progress.
Since people tend to copy those they admire ensure you are genuine and truthful at all times. Because parents lie or do things they should not do in the presence of their children and then deny it when questioned, the younger generation believes that that is the correct thing to do. Nobody appreciates a LIAR!
Start now to “consciously” question yourself about why your back and shoulders are always painful. The answer – you walk about carrying all of your life’s problems with you 24/7 resulting in unhappy draining thoughts which adversely affect your health and well-being. Your shoulders feel like they are carrying an extra 20Kg. You should be flexible, not tense! Tension and stress are a heavy burden to carry physically, mentally, and emotionally
Question each and every one of your thoughts in an endeavor to remove all negative thoughts and actions from your Being. Stop your mind when you tend to “judge” another. Stop thinking you know what another is like, what they will say or do. Instead, allow them to be and get to know them. Change your facial expressions and have a neutral expression. You will be amazed at how much younger you will feel and how much lighter you will become. It will save you from getting wrinkles and you will have a more pleasant look which others will find inviting and attractive. Remember too, to pick your shoulders up, keep your back straight, lift your feet as you walk, and feel “uplifted”! If you drag your feet as you walk you will tire quickly.
You have so much to be grateful for. You awakened with a roof over your head, did you not? Re-remember your originality! Celebrate you. Embrace you. Appreciate you. Validate you. Stop wanting to be like the masses.
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